My Experience: The Importance of Self Improvement
Over the last several years I have learned how to better myself as a person both inside and out. It was in high school that I was seen as a shy timid individual that would get picked on a regular basis. It was not until a certain situation arose that made me a stronger person and now I see myself as a strong independent woman. Many would say that I am not an independent person and that I rely on people to fight my battles for me. What many of these people fail to realize is that I come from a hard past and that past is what has made me who I am now. I, myself see myself as a strong, loyal, caring, and independent person who can in fact take care of my business by myself. I am the boss of myself. An article I read said "....we argued that becoming a great boss required courage — in particular, the courage to find out how others see you." (Hill, Linbeck,2011) This statement should hold true for any person as in order to be a strong person you have to have courage. Courage is the root of all things to becoming a strong person and learning who you truly are.
After looking over the information that I placed in the datasheet and thinking about how I react to people both in the past and also in the present I am shocked. I have come to realize that when it comes to negative criticism I do not take well to it. My behavior to people that give me negative feedback I often want to shut down on and have nothing to do with. In a current article that I read, it said "Even though the negative feedback is supposed to help, it’s perceived as a threat."(Berinato,2018) This is not very courageous as it shows that a person is weak in not standing up with they may believe in. When it comes to the positive side of feedback this makes me feel good about myself and who I am turning out to be. My behavior becomes more bubbly and also I become more active.
The influence that we receive from people each and every day can either be a life-changing one or a dead one. We as individuals oftentimes don't think before we speak leading to a disaster of a mess. Feelings get hurt, emotions run wild, sometimes we may even take feedback in the wrong way. When I receive feedback that I feel is intimidating I often feel threatened and beat down. When this occurs it causes me to either go into a depression and not want to talk to anyone or I get angry and want to say some not so nice words. When it is on a positive note this brings my morale up and I get the feeling I am wanted. When this occurs it makes me want to put forth a more positive attitude on things going on around me. Often times we can see a change in our behavior based on something positive or negative said to us. As our school book states self-esteem plays a large part in our behavior and how we react to things both in a positive and negative light. As stated "Self-esteem refers to the positive (high self-esteem) or negative (low self-esteem) feelings that we have about ourselves. We experience positive feelings of high self-esteem when we believe that we are good and worthy and that others view us positively. We experience the negative feelings of low self-esteem when we believe that we are inadequate and less worthy than others." (Principles of Social Psychology,150) ed
If we look at who is around us as far as our true friends are concerned you will see that normally it is just a select few. The saying goes you know who your true friends are when you are in a true time of need because they will be right there for you when you need them. I find this to be so true. Over the years I have seen many people come and go out of my life but the select few friends that I do have are ones that have stayed by my side for many years. These individuals have lifted me up when I was done and they also have put me in my place when I needed it the most.
While working on this assignment I have learned that even though I may not be liked by everyone I am still a good person. If it were not for my courage and then faith that I have to get me through difficult challenges I highly doubt I would be here today. We all have our good side and bad but the true challenge is how well do you know yourself on the inside. It has taken me many years to come to realize who I am and that person is the person I am right now. That person is courageous and strong. That person is ME. I may not be perfect and I may not always be kind when I speak but if people don't like my feedback that I may give out then that is their issue because as I see it we all learn from feedback that is given whether it is good or bad